Have you ever encountered anyone that you could not help? Or just a lost cause?- Pat
That is a very interesting question. In fact, I have never been asked this before. Pat, I would have to say NO. I am a firm believer in change and I know that anyone can change and be better no matter what the circumstance or condition. And everyone who has ever come to me for help has always desired change. It is up to me to keep going and endure with patience.
I have a very embarrassing secret but I want to tell my close friend. How should I go about doing that?- T in Mich
Depending on how close the friend and how embarrassing the secret I would say just let your friend know that what you are going to share is very important to you and requires the loyalty and trust of a real friend. There is nothing wrong with asking a friend if they can be trusted. If you feel comfortable with the answer then by all means proceed and if not, Please keep it to yourself until you find the right friend to share it with.
Dear. Dr YaYa,
I am 53 and my boyfriend is 29. We've been together for 2 yrs. and I admit that I take care of him. i.e money, car, clothes, etc. I just found out from my sister that he is the man that is dating my niece. She's 24. He doesn't know that we are related. I am hurt and heartbroken but still not willing to let him go. I am going to ask my niece to stop seeing him. Is this a good idea? I want to fight for my man.- Anon
Let me remove this doctors hat for a minute and say..Girl, are you serious?! Ok, putting the hat back on. The question I have is this..if he were 55 would you still want to fight for him or would you be willing to let an OLD cheater go. The message is the same he went out and found a young thing that he wanted to be with and it just so happens to be your niece. If he would have found another woman that was not related to you, would you take her out to dinner and ask her to leave him alone. NO, YOU WOULD NOT! This is not about him or your niece, this is about you. Now my final question....Do you think you deserve better?